We read endless articles about fighting for love. They say if we don’t fight enough, we don’t love enough, that that person deserves better. They teach us that love is selfless and selfish at the same time. You must surrender yourself to have that person to yourself. My question is who’s fighting for us..Who fights for the fighters? And who decides who must fight and who is the prize won? Is it fair to be in constant war for this one true love when that person is laying in a hammock, swaying the day away? If you say that that is fair, I’m here to tell you that you are wrong. Giving up on a love because you have fought too long and too hard with little or no results and no assistance from the other end does not mean you love that person less. It means that you have at least an ounce of love for yourself. And my love, if there is no one out there willing to love you at the moment, you better love your damn self. Don’t listen to the lies that tell you you need to stay there and lose yourself all in the name of love. If that person deserves someone who fights to the very end, both fists in kicking and screaming, then so do you! I believe in fighting, but I also believe that relationships are two way streets and what you put in is what you get out. It is not fair to you that you put in everything, and receive nothing in return….and if you say you still have your relationship, you are just fooling yourself. You don’t have love, you have an illusion of it. True love, just like it drove you, would drive that person to hell and back for the person they love…and in the end, the war doesn’t seem that hard when you have your defence force guarding your every move. So in the name of love, don’t forget it is neither a crime nor a sin to love yourself.